Coming to Terms

{ Tuesday, December 16, 2008 }
I've always had a certain look--you know, blond hair, mild features, conservative dress and a tendency to be painfully shy. It really gives off a kind of sweet and naive air. As a coworker once said about me, "we thought kraftykay was a sweet and innocent farm girl until we got to know her." For a very long time, I HATED this about myself. I tried so hard to fight against it. I cut my hair short, wore the requisite Doc Martens and got piercings and tattoos.

None of it worked. Try as I might, I still ended up looking like an innocent straight girl, just one who was trying to dress up as a lesbian. (Why do innocent and straight seem to go together? Hhhmm.) It used to really irk me that people couldn't look at me and right away identify me as a queer girl (OK, it still sometimes does). But for the most part, I've embraced the innocent girl image and actually started to have fun with it--after all, I may look sweet and innocent, but that doesn't mean I actually am.

So, when the sweetie and originally moved up our babymaking plans, the fact that the baby would come before the wedding was fine with me. We agreed that we would just have the wedding when our child was a year old--we're already a non-traditional couple, why have the traditional wedding? Well, it was a completely different story a couple weeks after we found out I was pregnant. It came as a surprise to me that suddenly it was very important that we be married before the baby came. Apparently looks aren't deceiving, maybe I really am traditional and innocent (I don't think I'm all that sweet, though).

Oh, and I want to wear a white (non maternity) dress. So we needed to get a move on. The sweetie and I share a birthday which happens to fall in February (and there's already Valentine's day to contend with there), so January it is. We are attempting to pull together an honest to goodness wedding in about a month and a half, with the little matter of Christmas between now and then. It feels a little like a survivor challenge. Think we'll get voted off the island?

9 comments:

Tina-cious.com said...

Holy hell woman! Shall I call Bridezillas now or should I wait through the weekend?

SO AWESOME! :)

Jess said...

That's awesome! :) I think it's great that you'll be married when the babies get here, then JR will be parent number two on the birth certificate. :)

You and my sister have that whole good girl image thing in common, it's pissed her off too (and she IS straight) but I think she's finally come to terms as it seems you have :)

weese said...

yay! a wedding!
I can't wait for the pictures.

Dani and Tonka said...

yay!! CANT WAIT!

Leo MacCool said...

very cool. our wedding anniversary is march and i think it's awesome to have an anniversary in a sort of plain month like that. so i think january is a great choice.

happy planning! i bet you'll have a great party.

Tina-cious.com said...

Hey! My birthday is in January! It's not a plain month!! LOL

Val said...

YAY! A wedding - how exciting! But that's not a lot of time.
And why did Jess say "BABIES"??? Are there more than 1 in there? C'mon -fess up!

Jess said...

at was a total goof on my part that was supposed to be baby gets not babies get!

Sorry! LOL

KraftyKay said...

I was going to say . . . as far as I know (and the ultrasound and the doppler could tell) there is only one. Thank the goddess (although I know the boy would be thrilled with twins).